5 Benefits of Family Anonymous Meetings When You Have an Addict in the Family

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Addiction can have a devastating effect on loved ones as well as on the person with addiction. Feelings of shame and guilt can drive family members to secrecy and isolation in an effort to hide the ongoing turmoil that addiction brings.

Families struggling with addiction also tend to have certain ingrained behavioral and communication styles that make it difficult to move forward in the recovery process. In effect, families must go through their own version of recovery to be free of addiction’s hold.

Family Anonymous meetings are modeled after Alcoholics Anonymous, an organization created in the 1930s to help alcoholics manage the day-to-day challenges of recovery. Like its predecessor, Family Anonymous meetings follow a 12 Step program designed to promote growth and personal development.

The principles and practices employed by Family Anonymous meetings offer a range of benefits for families living with addiction. Through regular attendance at meetings, family members can obtain the support and direction needed to live full lives regardless of where their loved one is in his or her recovery.

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The 12 Step Support Group Model

Support groups help loved ones find their own form of recovery.

Family Anonymous meetings operate according to the 12 Step support group model. This model follows a series of steps that walk members through the various developmental stages in the recovery process.

Family Anonymous meetings offer a type of long-term treatment solution for dealing with the effects of addiction in the home. People who attend these meetings share the same obstacles and stressors, which creates an environment of mutual support among members.

Through the sharing of hardships, experiences, and triumphs, members can learn new ways of coping with and handling tough situations. Over time, Family Anonymous meetings become a valuable source of strength and support as families work through their own recovery issues.

Family Anonymous Meetings

Family Anonymous meetings have no formal membership requirements or monthly dues to pay. Meeting moderators are not trained professionals or counselors, but individuals working on their own recovery path.

Much like the name implies, Family Anonymous meeting attendees can choose to remain anonymous, with all members taking a vow to maintain the privacy of the group and the topics discussed during meetings. Ultimately, the purpose of Family Anonymous meetings is to help families better cope with the effects of addiction and learn ways of living happy, fulfilling lives in the process.

The 12 Steps for Family Anonymous Meetings

According to the Families Anonymous resource site, the 12 Steps (as adapted for Family Anonymous meetings) act as a framework upon which the principles of the program rest:

1. We have found that our success in this program is determined by how well we accept and apply the following suggested Steps:
2. We admitted we were powerless over drugs and other people’s lives—that our lives had become unmanageable.
3. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
4. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him.
5. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
6. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
7. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
8. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
9. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
10. Made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
11. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
12. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we
13. Understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
14. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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How Families of Addicts Can Help Their Loved One

As a family member of someone struggling with addiction, it may seem as if you don’t know how to help your loved one. There are ways you can help, however, and other things that you should avoid.

5 Benefits of Family Anonymous Meetings

1. Redefining the Family’s Role in the Addict’s Life

Family members often spend much of their time and effort reacting to the addicted individual’s behavior rather than being individuals with their own lives. Addiction’s effects on the family create a defensive atmosphere of blame and distrust. Family Anonymous meetings help families redefine their roles in the individual’s life and take back their own lives from addiction’s influence.

2. Letting Go of the Past

Families living with addiction tend to develop destructive communication patterns that make it difficult for members to move past addiction’s hold. One such communication style takes the form of the “blame game.”

This “blame game” only works to keep family members firmly grounded in the past through the rehashing of past hurts and mistakes. Family Anonymous meetings help family members learn to be accountable for their own actions and choices at all times, irrespective of their loved one’s behaviors, both past and present.

3. Support Network

Whether a loved one is currently using or making steps toward recovery, a family’s recovery process can start at any time. Establishing a healthy support network becomes an essential part of the family’s recovery process. Family Anonymous meetings act as a support network for families living with addiction.

4. Living for Today

The “one day at a time” motto applies to individuals in recovery as well as their families. Worrying about their loved one’s next move and taking steps to keep the addiction hidden from others can be exhausting. Living for today remains a guiding principle in Family Anonymous meetings. Over time, family members learn to stop making excuses for their relative’s behaviors or trying to hide the problem.

5. Letting Go of Judgment

Addictive behaviors may take place in plain sight, making it easy to pass judgment. Family Anonymous meetings stress the importance of taking a personal inventory of one’s strengths and shortcomings. From this perspective, family members can allow the individual to grow and change at his or her own pace without passing judgment.

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Considerations

Family Anonymous meetings help loved ones take back their lives from the damaging effects of addiction. Recovery in any form takes time and requires a certain degree of patience and resilience. Over time, the support and guidance available through Family Anonymous meetings becomes ongoing sources of strength and encouragement for families in recovery. If you believe that someone you know or love might be using narcotics, visit our online directory to search for a Narcotics Anonymous (NA) meeting near you!

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